一个朋友是您接近的人，您可以指望，笑，哭泣并与之分享回忆。您的BFF，您的好朋友或您的朋友。无论标签如何，友谊都是使我们日子更加光明的阳光。
But what happens if your friendship is bringing more harm than good? What if your so-called friend is toxic?
“Toxic relationshipsare hard to sustain because they drain your energy, cause you to isolate from your support system and you end up suffering in silence,” said Veronica Perez-Cake, a licensed master social worker at Banner Health. "Toxic relationships contribute to increased levels of the stress hormone, cortisol, which contributes toanxiety, depression, sleep disturbances, difficulties with concentration and can cause serious health problems.”
If you believe you’re in a toxic relationship, there are quite a few signs you can look out for to determine whether it’s unhealthy. Some red flags may be subtle—others more obvious. Here are 10 types of toxic people to look out for and six ways to extinguish the relationship.
What to Do About a Toxic Relationship
If you read the above list and thought, “Check, check, check,” it’s time to cut ties with this relationship. You don’t need toxic people or negativity in your life, whether it’s from a supposed BFF or a significant other. You need (and deserve!) people who care and want to spend time with you and lift you up. But, when, where, and how does one do this? Perez-Cake shared these six tips.
1. Evaluate your relationship with this person
当您对这种关系不好或行为改变并且其他人注意到时，您会知道自己处于有毒的关系。
“Start by asking yourself why you are staying in this relationship in the first place,” Perez-Cake said. “Do you feel good about the relationship or does your behavior change and others have taken notice? Friends or partners should contribute to your well-being—not take it. If someone doesn’t have your best interest, then limiting exposure to them is advisable.”
2. Find professional support
Getting out of a toxic relationship is hard, so you’re going to want some professional help from a licensed behavioral health specialist. While you aren’t to blame, you may consistently play a role in relationships that aren’t good for you. Being aware of those patterns and how to break free from them can help.
3.与您一生中积极的人重新建立联系
Surround yourself with those who remind you about all the good things in a healthy relationship. Reach out to close friends and family who can provide you support and help you cope with your feelings and move on. You want to surround yourself with people who are cheerleaders in your growth and well-being.
4. Make a list of your own goals and desires
创建您自己的个人目标列表以及这种关系如何阻止您达到目标。为您的关系创建一个值列表和非谈判的列表。您应该得到最好的，不应该为任何对待您的人满意。
5. Make a plan to exit the relationship
确定如何，何时何地结束有毒关系。如果您需要指导或支持，精神卫生专家可以帮助您制定计划。
6. Take a deep breath and just leave
“There is no perfect time to do it,” Perez-Cake said. You may not feel like yourself for a while but give it time. Remind yourself this is temporary and that eventually you’ll begin to feel better. Continue to surround yourself with positive people and speak with a mental health professional if you need additional help.
今天得到帮助
If you’re beingphysically, verbally or sexually abused，您需要立即退出并寻求帮助。以下是一些可以帮助您安全导航下一步的资源：
- 请致电800-254-4357与横幅求职者联系，或安排与我们的一位持牌专业人员的约会Banner Behavioral Health.
- Call theNational Domestic Violence Hotlineat 800-799-7233 (SAFE).
- Call theNational Suicide Prevention Lifelineat 800-273-8255 (TALK) or text HOME to 741741.
