“一个有信念的人是一个很难改变的人。告诉他你不同意，他转身离开。向他展示事实或数字，他质疑您的消息来源。吸引逻辑，他没有看到您的观点。”
Leon Festinger，美国社会心理学家
Parenting can be hard, especially with so many differing opinions on everything from breastfeeding to what age it's safe for your child to play football, if at all. When commiserating with friends and sharing advice, the topic of接种疫苗can be an especially sensitive one—and often avoided.
那么，当朋友让它不相信接种孩子时，会发生什么？他们毕竟是你的朋友。你喜欢他们。他们很聪明，您的孩子在一起很好。他们怎么能不相信疫苗接种？
Let’s face it, some people have a complicated relationship with science. From debates over global warming and evolution to whether the moon landing was real or not—some still fail to trust facts, figures and scientific research.
“这可能部分归因于一种称为文化认知的现象，”有执照的专业顾问，行为健康医生杰里米亚·福克斯（Jerimya Fox）说横幅Behavioral Health Hospital。“这发生在我们认为与个人经验和团体承诺相关的风险和相关事实时，就会发生这种情况。我们在政治领域中最常提到这一点，因为将我们的政治隶属关系描述为共和党人或民主党人。”
为什么事实还不够
The World Health Organization (WHO）， 疾病预防与控制中心 （疾病预防控制中心) and the majority of the world’s health care community agree that immunizations are safe, effective and essential for public health—大大减少疾病，残疾和死亡。
The first vaccine discovered was the smallpox vaccine. Before the vaccine, smallpox killed300 million peoplein the 20th century. After the vaccine, the disease was erased. In 2000, the WHO declared the麻疹消除了在美国，但几年后，我们看到了近30年来最多的案件。
The reason for the resurgence?More parents are opting to not vaccinate.
“免疫不足与疫苗预防疾病的风险升高有关。”Ruben Espinoza, MD, a pediatrician and physician lead at横幅Health Clinicin Mesa, AZ. “Beyond just the individual risk, nonmedical immunization exemptions or when people opt to not vaccinate for personal reasons, have been associated with an increased community risk of measles and pertussis outbreaks. This type of exemption has increased over the last decade, and that is the reason for all of the outbreaks in the last 5 to 10 years.”
Despite sharing the importance aboutherd immunity并一次又一次地证明疫苗don’t cause autism或包含有害化学物质或“毒药”，一小部分人（包括您的朋友）不同意。这些担忧导致免疫接种量下降，并增加了可预防疫苗的疾病，例如麻疹。
Espinoza博士说：“疫苗成分对普通大众来说听起来很恐怖，尤其是当它们知之甚少时。”“这引起了一些关于食材安全性的可理解（尽管毫无根据）。例如，formaldehyde and aluminum, which serve to stabilize the vaccine or enhance the immune response, are found naturally in our bodies, in our food or environment. The dosage given is miniscule—much less than what is found naturally.”
你接近房间里的大象吗？
Talking about vaccinations can be really difficult as it touches on deep-rooted belief systems and values. If the WHO, CDC and the majority of health care professionals haven’t persuaded your friend that vaccines are safe and crucial to health—do you really think you could be that one person to change their minds?
If you find yourself on the verge of a very uncomfortable situation with a vaccine-hesitant friend, do you jump in feet first or leave the elephant quietly sitting in the room (socially distanced, of course)? If you think your friend may be open to discussion, there are a few ways to delicately navigate this topic without losing your friend in the process.
Five Ways to Navigate Vaccine Conversations with a Friend
1. Listen and Seek Understanding
Listening is a crucial skill for young children to learn. It’s one of the building blocks of language and communication, yet it is a skill that many adults still have a difficult time grasping.
就像我们告诉我们的孩子“在他们的嘴里捕捉泡沫”一样，在您聆听之前抵制说话的冲动。通过聆听，您可以更好地了解他们的信念，假设和与之联系的事实。
福克斯博士说：“在冲突中经常发生的事情是有人开始分享，另一个人认为这需要中断并证明自己是正确的。”“仍然是被动的并没有屈服，这使您能够对他人的观点和信仰更加深入地了解。”
2. Stay Calm
Paying attention to your tone, attitude and reactions can help make it easier for you to seek understanding. If you allow your temper to flare, you inevitably unload your feelings on that person.
我们经常自然地反映或不知不觉地模仿我们正在与之交谈的人的行为和手势。如果他们被加热，在您不知不觉中，您就会加热，现在您俩都在大喊大叫。只有您才能控制内部发生的事情 - 打击即将消失的战斗或飞行铃。
福克斯博士说：“我意识到这说起来容易做起来难。”“请记住，保持镇定和沉默并不意味着您同意他们的看法。这只是意味着，在谈判或说服他人时，您必须首先寻求理解。为此，必须保持冷静，抛弃他们不同的观点。”
3. Avoid Shaming
As a fellow parent, you should know that shaming rarely is successful with children, so why would it be different for adults?
在您的脑海中，您可能想尖叫：“您怎么看不到事实？你愚蠢吗？”但是问问自己，“这会有所帮助或伤害吗？”
没有人愿意被贬低或告诉他们错了。这是一个消极的行为，只会带来负面后果。实际上，这将在讨论中引起强烈的刺激性，并且很可能在没有解决方案的情况下结束。
“If you are truly arguing with someone with a differing opinion, you are likely arguing with someone you care about,” Dr. Fox said. “Shaming is not a behavior you want to do with someone you care about.”
4. Share Information, And Let Them Decide
使对话Dive Bomb South的一种确定方式是试图用事实“赢得”对话。疫苗接种可能是一个激烈的话题，没有人想被告知他们的信念或决定，育儿或其他方式是错误的。
我们的文化认知使我们扎根于世界，并巩固我们与我们认同的人群和反对那些不同意的群体。改变这些先前的信念和信念就像推动糖蜜覆盖上坡。您很难在一夜之间改变任何人对疫苗接种的看法，无论您对它们提供多少统计数据和事实。
“If you Google something, you are going to find a lot of info—some factual, some not and some seemingly factual,” Dr. Fox said. “Most people want to find the information themselves and don’t want it shoved in front of them.”
如果您要向他们提供事实信息，请将其作为信息，仅提供信息。您无法指导他们的决定改变。最终，这是他们必须自己来的事情。
5. Be Patient and Kind
我们知道安全带挽救生命 - 不仅适用于那些穿着它们的人，而且对于汽车中的乘客而言，但有些人仍然不穿。我们知道吸烟对我们不利，这对那些获得第二手的人来说是不利的 - 但仍然很多人仍然这样做。
就像安全带佩戴和吸烟一样，即使在您面前提出的事实也很难改变。要有耐心。善待。
为了帮助确保您和您的家人在所有推荐的疫苗接种（无论是童年和成人）上的最新情况，请访问疾病预防控制中心website和bannerhealth.com。
了解有关疫苗接种重要性的更多信息：
在拥抱新生儿之前接受这些疫苗接种
对您孩子的良好检查的期望
Immunization for HPV Especially Important for Young Children
更新：该博客的内容于2021年2月2日（星期二）更新。
