还记得童年的无忧无虑的日子吗？日子很长，我们的想象力巨大，我们的想法是史诗般的 - 也许是一个微小的危险。每天都是一个新的经验和冒险，充满了学习和发现。
然后突然，在眨眼之间，你不再是一个孩子 - 你是成人的。
不要给我们错了，成为一个成年人非常棒，但也充满了很多责任和艰难的决定。慢慢地，但肯定地，那个孩子般的奇迹，你作为一个孩子拿着一个盒子，并藏在大脑的阁楼里。我们放下了我们的玩具;我们停止玩。我们变得更加迟到，结构化，更少开放新经验。
But as we grow into adulthood, we might be letting go of a little more than we should.
当孩子经常看我们老师,我们的ten don’t consider what they could be teaching us. Kids can teach us so much about living life, about having hope and making the most out of any situation. We could actually relearn a thing or two from them.
“Rare is the child who truly ruminates on things,” saidKristine Goto，博士，心理学家横幅 - 大学医疗中心凤凰城。“他们首先采取行动，然后想到 - 这是一个祝福和诅咒，坦率地说。
“But as adults, we can help children learn to appreciate these impulses as strengths they may later build upon, and, in turn, we can find ourselves similarly sparked to remain connected to the exuberance of childhood that often escapes our otherwise structured and more contained adult lives.”
您可以从儿童中学到的四个生命课程
The good news is that childlike wonder still lives inside you—no matter your age. It’s just a matter of embracing it. Dr. Goto shares four things we can learn from children to be better adults.
1. Feel your feelings
孩子们把他们的情绪放在袖子上。当他们开心时，他们微笑着笑。当他们悲伤时，他们哭了。作为成年人，您可能会试图控制自己的情绪，而不承认您的感受。您可能会在填充您的情绪周围调整强迫行为，否认他们，抑制您的感受并强迫他们认为对世界更为接受的东西和他人。
当然，学习管理我们的情绪是许多人的关键积极的things in our lives—but, we cannot proceed to that step without first acknowledging how we feel. Sad things are sad. Hard things are hard. Getting older doesn’t change that!
“如果我们缺乏覆盖的自我判断，甚至甚至典型成年人的刚性克制，那么允许感受我们的感受在决定我们如何符合我们的价值观之前，我们可以走向以自我接受，完全不完美，精彩和整个人类所必需的那种自我同情，博士转到了。
2. Be curious and excited
Being inquisitive is how children learn. They push buttons, turn knobs, open drawers and have a million questions and hypotheses about nearly everything as they take in the enormity of this world. They aren’t yet burdened with worry about what others may think about their offerings or efforts. Self-awareness isn’t their conscious driver. It’s more concerning when children don’t have an audience than it is to be scrutinized or shamed.
我们还有一个小说中的一个小人物，具有小说的想法和共享的先天欲望。然而，在路上的某个地方，我们失去了curiosity和兴奋学习新事物并发现新的地方。如果我们可以像孩子一样researn好奇，它可能只是引领我们更大的自我实现和快乐。
“如果我们能够在某种程度上变更或影响我们的成长欲望，或者通过我们的贡献改变或影响他人，并简单地贡献了兴奋和好奇心，我们可以重新连接到达到最高形式的人类创造力的合作简单，”博士转到了。
3.无所畏惧
Children jump, climb, fall and get right back up. As a kid, it’s almost expected rather than feared.
我们也有能力接受或投降恐惧和潜入新的东西，但我们适应了自动化，也许是不喜欢失败的刺痛。但是，如果你谨慎地敲入那些更年轻的日子，那将发生什么 - 闪闪发光的目标远远大于到达它的潜在成本？如果您只是确认您的预订，则计算出对实际风险的评估，并跳到了孩子的信心学习新的东西？
“You can still be responsible; it’s not about being reckless but rather being willing to take risks,” Dr. Goto said. “Putting fear into perspective may just allow for more self-discovery and adult exhilaration.”
4. Grow a little every day (even when it’s hard)
“When we’re young, growth doesn’t take conscious effort; it’s a natural occurrence that pretty much won’t be stopped,” Dr. Goto said. “As we age, however, growth truly becomes a choice, and a hard one at that to embrace.”
孩子们向我们展示我们会跌跌撞撞，我们可能会愤怒，我们有时会感受到伤害，但如果我们允许自己体验所有这些东西，我们可能真的翱翔。如果我们摔倒，弄乱或犯错误，我们感受到我们的感受，我们接受了备份。
“生活是关于学习的，年龄是必要的，但在我们每个人中可能的增长量，”博士说“。“我们可以学到的许多最有意义的事情通过一剂成年谦卑者接受我们对社会世界的适应并不总是没有阻碍我们的孩子可能定期提供的小说视角。”
It’s time to turn off that你脑子里的内在评论家and look around at a world beyond yourself. Take a stab at a new skill, be open to change and be better today than you were yesterday (even when it’s hard or scary). You could stumble, or you may just surprise yourself.
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